A guide to grieving: how to cope with the passing of a loved one
As Benjamin Franklin once famously stated, death is one of the only things guaranteed in life. This means that, at some point or another in your existence, you are more than likely going to lose somebody that you love. When you find yourself dealing with this situation, it’s important that you take the advice laid out in the guide below, as doing so will help you to cope with your grief in as healthy a manner as possible.
Here are two things you must do to cope with the passing of a loved one:
Accept help
It is essential that you accept help whenever it is offered to you, especially during the initial stages of your grieving process. Quite simply, you aren’t going to be able to deal with the reality of what has happened if you don’t give yourself time and space to grieve, which means you must have no qualms in sharing some of the burdens that you carry in life.
The assistance that you accept could come in a range of different forms and from a number of different sources. Whether this is your neighbours offering to cook your meals for you while you are grieving or your close friends or relatives saying they will take your kids to school, for the time being, it’s important to accept this help. It could even come from local probate solicitors helping you to obtain the Grant of Representation that will allow you to deal with the deceased’s affairs.
Regardless of what type of help is offered to you, just be sure to accept it. Whatever you do in this instance, don’t let your pride get in the way of anything.
Don’t rush your grief
As touched upon, if you’re to deal with your grief in as healthy a manner as possible, you’re going to need time and space. To afford yourself these two luxuries, you have to strive to slow down your grieving process. Stop trying to rush everything and instead take everything at a comfortable pace. Only when you do this will you be able to get used to your new reality without upsetting or hurting yourself further.
When it comes to taking your time in this instance, it’s important that you embrace the individual states of the grieving process. This means getting angry if you feel angry, being sad if you feel sad, and allowing yourself to be happy when you do, in fact, feel happy once again.
Remember, there’s no time frame on how long it will take you to get over the heartache of losing your loved one — it could take months for you to feel okay.
No matter who you are, what you do for a job, or where you live, when you lose somebody close to you, you will grieve just like everybody else. To ensure that you cope with the trauma, you must be prepared to put the above advice into practice. Accept help whenever it is offered, and never attempt to rush your grief.
